Viral ang Facebook post ng isang babaeng nakaranas ng "cheating" sa kaniyang ex-partner matapos aniya siyang ipagpalit sa isang babaeng solo parent na may tatlong anak.
Kalakip ng Facebook post ang litrato ni "Kimberly Anne Mendoza," 22 -anyos mula sa Bacolod City, Negros Occidental, kasama ang dating nobyo na ginawa niyang black and white, gaya ng nauuso ngayon.
"Hindi pa patay, sumakabilang bil*t lang + tinalikuran ang responsibilidad sa anak," aniya.
Sa kaniyang mahabang post ay idinetalye ni Kimberly kung ano ang kuwento sa likod ng post na ito. Ayon din sa panayam ng Balita kay Kimberly, limang taon pala silang naging magkasintahan at buntis pa siya ng mga sandaling nagloko ito.
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"Cheating is one thing, but leaving your partner of 5 years while pregnant with your child, to be with someone you met just months ago??? THE AUDACITY. You want a trip down memory lane? Here's the SUMMARY," mababasa sa kaniyang post.
Pinili raw magsalita ni Kimberly dahil sa kaniyang pananahimik, parang lumalabas daw na siya ang may kasalanan at "playing victim" aniya ang kaniyang ex.
"I've been silent these past few months to mentally and physically prepare for the invasive childbirth, however, I will not sit here while you throw dirt all on my name and make up stories where you were the VICTIM in the situation you absolutely created yourself and then flip the story to manipulate people to think you're INNOCENT."
Ayon sa post, lumalabas na ipinagpalit siya ng dating partner sa isang katrabahong nakilala lamang ng ilang buwan. Hindi raw siya makapaniwalang magagawa siyang lokohin nito, dahil pakiramdam niya ay naging masaya naman ang kanilang relasyon sa loob ng limang taon.
"We were together for 5 YEARS, willingly, I had never forced you into staying such as your narrative to your friends and family. Everything was fine in our relationship, we were happy—or just so I thought. 7 months into my pregnancy you left me hanging to be with the girl you just met months ago, in your workplace."
"Never in my wildest dreams you are actually capable to do that to us. Initially you denied to me and my family you have a relationship with that girl and that, you just lost feelings naturally. Time passed and there you are, parading the girl you denied, I guess time really is the truth teller."
"I also found out that you were already cheating on me on the month of September when I was 3 months pregnant, how cruel could that be? That is the fricking lowest a man could steep—to cheat while his partner is carrying his baby."
Nalulungkot si Kimberly dahil hindi raw alam ng kaniyang ex kung gaano kahirap ang pagdadalantao---magmula sa aktuwal na pagbubuntis, mismong panganganak, hanggang sa post-partum.
"You won't even come up to half the shit I went through; STRESSFUL pregnancy that permanently altered my body (while you were messing up with someone else), childbirth, episiotomy, staying up late to breastfeed, sore body, postpartum depression. This journey should be made with a partner, that was the plan all along and that was the expectation since we were already long term but you suddenly dipped and chose to have a single-responsibility-free life."
At ngayong naisilang na niya ang anak, sa palagay niya ay hindi deserve ng dating partner na kilalanin siya nitong tatay.
"Now that I birthed MY SON, I refuse to have you in our lives. A lot of people think a child needs his dad, I don't agree. A child needs a safe dad, a consistent dad, a dad that understands that his child COMES BEFORE immature selfishness, a dad that has emotional maturity, a dad that respects his child's mother, a dad that understands a kid is a permanent life changing decision and not a random breathing toy popped out of a woman's body, if he is not that dad, a child doesn't need him."
"This manchild is too complacent on the fact that my son turned out to be a boy and that he'll seek for a father one day, well breaking news, I will parent him to be a wonderful gentleman that respects both women and men, and knows that cheating is never right, and someday my kid are going to figure you out. I promise you he will. The type of partner you are. The type of a person you are."
"You can play victim all you want, but I refuse to be YOUR victim, I will rise above the situation you had put me through because I am a responsible mother and another human being depends solely on me and I will give my child a better life no matter what it takes me.😌🙏."
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Sa eksklusibong panayam ng Balita kay Kimberly, hindi niya masasabing naka-move on na siya dahil hanggang ngayon, nasa "healing process" pa siya.
Nagbigay naman siya ng mensahe sa mga babaeng kagaya niya ay nakaranas na maloko ng kanilang partner.
"I want to inspire and empower other women that are still in that situation. Never put a toxic man on the pedestal, first a few red flags we should be alert enough to notice it and choose ourselves over anything."
"Self love and respect is the root of peace of mind, we should value ourselves more and stop allowing others to step on our boundaries."
"We should not let them treat us in their rehabilitation centers for immature men, it is not our job to change him, and parent him all while they cheat and wait for them to finally change. We should be vigilant enough to spot the first few red flags."
"We can choose our partner but our children can't choose their father. Make sure you choose a great one for them. Please don't let your children suffer in the future. We women should be reminded of our power, to be capable of choosing ourselves over some immature selfish men."
"It's time to reclaim our power in order to avoid getting into situations where our mental health spirals down. I hope our generation will master the art of letting go in order to avoid another generation to suffer the consequences," aniya.
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