Viral ngayon ang Facebook post ni Alfredrick Gayoma, 23, matapos niyang ibahagi ang listahan ng mga tipikal niyang gastusin bilang breadwinner o tagapagtaguyod ng pamilya, sa pang-araw-araw nilang pamumuhay.
Makikita sa listahan na umaabot sa ₱27,500 ang buwanang gastusin nila, kasama na ang gamot para sa kaniyang inang nagkasakit matapos tamaan ng COVID-19.
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"This is the life of a breadwinner. You had to endure days asking yourself whether to buy this or that without second thinking.
You'll get scolded a lot for not having savings, not being insured, and not preparing for the future. All you have to think about and all your focus will be left on how to survive what's current," ayon sa kaniyang mahabang caption.
Hindi umano madali ang maging breadwinner ng pamilya, lalo na't laging mataas ang inaasahan sa iyo ng mga tao. Sa lipunang Pilipino, kapag ikaw ang breadwinner, iniisip ng nakararami na marami kang pera.
"There's an addition of being insecure to almost everything. Having been able to pay for everything makes other people think that you are creating tons of money, but you are just barely surviving. You have to pay for everything because no else would. There will be some points were you will be depriving yourself and there would also be points that you'll fight with your conscience if you deserve a reward for yourself."
Subalit ang totoo niyan, maraming 'insecurities' na nabubuo sa mga breadwinners na gaya niya, na walang ibang pamimilian kundi pasanin ang responsibilidad na ito sa pamilya, dahil sa kanilang kalagayan.
"You'll be questioning yourself if you are living a luxurious life even if you just decided to do a little leap of expense to make yourself a little comfortable. You will be thinking everyday, when will better days happen. You will be everyday envious of those people of your age winning with life because they can care less about others. They can have their resources for their own personal growth and happiness," aniya.
Sa mga gaya umano niyang breadwinner at 23, minsan daw, hindi na option ang pamamahinga.
"Fact is, you never chose a life like this, this life has chosen you. At 23, I have to be stressed like this. Resting is barely an option."
Sa panayam ng Balita Online, mukhang nasa maayos namang kalagayan si Alfredick sa kabila ng mga pagsubok na kinahaharap niya sa pamilya. Kahit paano raw ay nakatutulong ang pagpo-post niya sa social media ng kaniyang mga saloobin at damdamin upang kahit paano ay maibsan naman ang kaniyang mga negatibong pakiramdam, gaya ng matinding kalungkutan.
"It is always has been my way of coping with sadness to post anything I feel through social media. I feel like my thoughts are always something I needed to share to people so I can be able to open eyes of my readers regarding the reality of life," aniya.
"But the real reason that I posted something about being a breadwinner is because I was on my low point at that moment. I feel so insecure to most of the people around me, my mental health is not on a good swing on that moment that I had to share, that I had to write down my feeling through a narrative and wait for my friends to give some validations and good advise as to what I am going through. It's really hard keep everything on your head as you'll lose all the sanity left in you if you try to do so," paliwanag pa niya.
Ngunit bakit nga ba kailangan niyang akuin ang pagiging breadwinner ng pamilya?
"I have two siblings po that are currently studying po. My other sibling already has his own family. My dad passed exactly last year," salaysay niya.
Lahat sila ay nagpositibo sa COVID-19 at ang pinakanapuruhan dito ay ang kanilang ina.
"My mom is already half body paralyzed because of stroke due to COVID-19. Just recently, my whole family contracted the virus, and it has been a more than a circus since then."
May mensahe naman siya sa mga kagaya niyang breadwinners.
"My message to all the breadwinners out there, let's just keep on thriving. Cliché as it may sound but better days are coming for us. We know how to deal with big problems and we can conquer even more."
"At least we won't live on regret, that we have done our part, that we have helped to the max that we could. Blessings shall pour more to us," saad pa niya.
Si Alfredrick Gayoma ay nagtapos ng kursong Electronics Engineering bilang Cum Laude, sa Polytechnic University of the Philippines. Naipasa na rin niya ang board exam, at siya ngayon ay nagtatrabaho bilang Technical Support Engineer sa isang manufacturing company.
