Viral ang Facebook post ng isang misis na nagngangalang Jham Gayo-Manuel o "Jhammie G" matapos niyang ibahagi ang ilan sa mga realisasyon niya sa buhay ng isang mag-asawa.
Sinimulan niya ang kaniyang Facebook post sa pahayag na "I never took credit."
Aniya, nagtataka raw ang kaniyang mister na si Aaron Ryan Manuel kung bakit hindi itinuturing ni Jhammie na kaniya rin kung anuman ang naipundar nito sa kanilang bahay at buhay sa panahon ng kanilang pagsasama bilang mag-asawa.
"When we first moved out, it was Aaron who provided, while I became a housewife."
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"When we built our first house, it was Aaron’s savings that shouldered the initial construction costs."
"And when we bought our first car, it was Aaron who paid for it."
"You see, my husband earns more than I do. So he gets to save more and do the bigger purchases. So I created this idea in my head that all we have right now is mostly HIS," aniya.
Subalit nang minsang mag-usap sila, natanong daw sa kaniya ng mister kung bakit hindi niya kine-credit ang sariling kahati o pag-aari din niya kung anuman ang mga naipundar ni Aaron sa kanilang tahanan.
"But the other night during bedtime, he asked me why I never take credit or ownership with the things we have as a family.
Then he said, 'Di mo ba alam na if it weren’t for you, wala lahat ng ‘to?'"
"I got a bit confused when I heard it. Kasi nga para sakin mas malaki ambag nya."
"Then he mentioned an episode from the Modern Family about the Dreamer and the Realist.."
"To him, I’m the dreamer, he’s the realist."
Inisa-isa naman ni Jhammie G kung bakit siya ang dreamer at si Aaron naman ang realist.
"I’m the problem FINDER who comes up with all the possible solutions we could do — whether we afford it or not. While he’s the problem SOLVER who does things in the most achievable ways. He then enumerated some of our milestones as a family..
"The moment I considered moving out, he doubted it was a smart move, given our income that time. He was worried na wala kaming maiipon. But I pushed forward and helped him realize na kaya naman pala namin."
"When we were planning to have our first home, I insisted on investing in professional design kahit mahal. Now we enjoy a beautiful and well-engineered house. Which also gave us peace of mind of having a sturdy home."
"During the start of our self-work journey, I was able to introduce possibilities that helped expand our mental wallet and perspective in life. At the same time, he keeps me grounded from having the shiny object syndrome."
"And then he started to double and triple his income. And said it was from all the encouragement and support I gave when the opportunities came. So that’s how we got to afford a car earlier than we expected."
Kaya dagdag ng misis, hindi lang "tangible contributions" ang mahalaga kundi maging sa visions, aspirations, at dreams.
"At times, we see a family member’s worth by tangible contributions — like finances. But from this conversation with my husband, I realized that the visions, aspirations, and dreams are as important."
Kaya naman, mahalaga raw sa mag-asawa ang pagtutulungan. Dapat daw ay equal ang isa't isa. Hindi kompetensya.
"Because the dreamers help the realists by taking them off the ground. While the realists balance out the dreamers by keeping them from the risk of life’s unpredictable ventures."
"Life would be boring without the dreamers, and it would probably be messy without the realists. You see how beautiful it is to complement each other? To keep the balance?"
"So if you’re someone who often compares how much you provide to your partner, I hope you take a moment to realize that you may be giving more than what you think."
"You both need each other EQUALLY. No matter what happens. It’s not a competition."
"And the most important thing here is the trust we place in ourselves and in our partners, that we can overcome anything when we wholeheartedly commit and support each other."
"You have your own dynamic in this relationship and ONLY BOTH OF YOU are in charge of that."
"So to the realists out there, may you find your dreamers."
"And to my fellow dreamers, just keep dreaming. Because that’s our gift. And may you find that one person who will love, accept, and keep you from soaring too near the sun," paliwanag niya.
Sina Jhammie at Aaron ay parehong 25 taong gulang at limang taon nang kasal.
Marami sa mga netizen ang naka-relate at na-inspire sa mga sinabi ni Jhammie.
"Love this! With the right person. You both can do it without pressure or competition!"
"Thank you, Jham, for sharing this piece of your relationship! 🤗 Lately,I've been thinking the same. Salamat sa comforting words and perspective. Ganda nun~ hoping that every Dreamers find their Realists and eventually find their dynamics."
"the most beautiful thing i've read about true genuine love"
"Wow! Thank you for this! ♥️♥️ Worth the read 🥰
Habang isinusulat ang artikulong ito ay umabot na sa 17k reactions, 15k shares, at 1.7k comments ang nabanggit na post ni Jhammie.
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